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Are you willing to embrace love in your life right now?
Are you willing to embrace love in your life right now?

In my opinion. the biggest lie that has ever been said, and embraced, in regards to love, is that it comes when you aren't looking for it, or when you least expect it.

You may have heard these same statements at times over the years, and may have even said those same things to yourself, or others, when the subject of love came up.

There are two main reasons why I believe that the aforementioned statements about love are false.

Firstly, if one believes that love comes to us when we aren't looking for it, or when we least expect it, it requires one to believe that love is in fact blind, and hits us randomly without any real reason and purpose.

Secondly, if one believes that love comes to us when we aren't looking for it, or when we least expect it, it requires one to believe that love in, and of itself, is passive, and not active. It requires the inherent belief, that love will come to us without any work, or sacrifice on our part.

Each day we wake up, we make a conscious decision in ourselves, whether we are going to get up, and go to work, or whether we are going to stay home for whatever reason. Whatever we decide each day, we are exercising the gift of free will and choice in our life. If we make the conscious decision to go to work, we are taking action in our life, that we will reap positive results from, in whatever fashion. If we make the conscious decision to not go to work, because we just don't want to, we are taking action in our life, albeit negative action, that we will reap results from, whether it be directly, or indirectly.

Each day we wake up, we are taking positive action in our life. We are acknowledging to ourselves, and agreeing with ourselves, that our life is important, and we love ourselves as an individual. When we take that simple, and active action in ourselves, we are saying in ourselves, and of our life, that love is active and not passive.

Each day we go to work, we make a conscious decision to not only mentally prepare ourselves for the task that we were hired to do, we also physically conduct those same task so that we can accomplish that which has been asked of us that day. Both processes require us to take positive action in our life, if we are to complete the task at hand.

The same correlation can be made of love in our life. In order for us to embrace love in our life, we must first prepare ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually. It is not enough for us to say, "we want love in our life", and then sit at our 'life' desk, day dreaming over the idea of love. We can proclaim to ourselves, and the rest of the world, that 'we want love in our life", but if we don't take positive action in our life, we will continue to sit at our 'life' desk, daydreaming, and wondering why love never seems to come our way.

Positive emotions about love, are merely the fruit of love. They are not the foundation of love. Love is ( at least it should be ) a conscious decision on our part each day, to embrace ourselves for who we are, in all that we are, as well as those around us.

When we were children, we all did things that we shouldn't have. We all did things at times, that were against the wishes, and rules of our parents. When we did those things, our parents may have gotten angry at us, or sad with us, but regardless of how they felt at that particular moment, it didn't change the fact that they continued to love us. Their love did not change with their feelings at that moment. They didn't change because love is more than emotions. It is deeper than emotion.

In my opinion, that is where we all miss the 'boat' at times. If we only see love, or the idea of love, as just emotion, we will be forever tossed upon the sea of our life without a rudder to guide us.

Are you willing to live above emotion? Are you willing to take positive action in your life, so that you can be ready for love, when it comes knocking on your heart's door?

In the next posts, I will share with you what I believe are the steps we all need to take each day, so that we can take an active, and positive role in our own life, when it comes to love.
1 Comments:

You said this so well and it is something I have always believed. Love is a choice. If we believe that we "fall in love", as if it happens beyond our control, then it becomes too easy to believe we can fall out of love beyond our control. We choose to love who we love and to make the commitment to stay in love.

July 5, 2014 at 10:56 PM  

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